Friday, June 12, 2015

Oh No You Don't!

My husband the comedian says this to me last night:
"I want my mom to immigrate to America in the future."

No. No. No.

He can't be serious. Can he?
Oh but yes. He is. Why in the world is saying stupid stuff like this? Men are such idiots.

In the morning, I'm still homicidal.
"You're still angry?" he asks. My Drew-Barrymore-Firestarter-stare must have given me away. He implores me to calm down. That it's something we can discuss again when we are settled in America.

Yes, time is on my side. And I'll buy as much of it as I can to keep those parents of his from coming over permanently.

I kept stewing in my rage so I decided to look online to see what I could find out. Had anyone else been in this situation before? And thankfully, I discovered that I can't be responsible for his moron parents. They're not MY immediate relatives. So I can't bring them over. Oh darn. Yes, that was a heavy layer of sarcasm coating that statement.

Even though I can't get them a permanent resident visa, there is one person who can. Their own son. Yes, my husband can do it. But not while he's a green card holder. He needs to become a full-fledged US citizen first. And that will be lots of paperwork, money and time. Plus, he'll have to prove he has enough money to support those two before they will grant his parents green cards.

I don't like my in-laws. You know this. I don't want anything bad to happen to them though, despite how much I despise them. I really don't. But just because I don't wish any ill will on them does not mean I want to dote on them. I did not work this hard to get out of here and get my husband and daughters into a better place just to have tthem tag along. Maybe that sounds selfish but I don't want to waste my earnings on 2 people who are old and aren't going to accomplish anything else in their lives. The money we make should be spent making our daughters' lives the best we can make them.

I'm fine with them visiting or us going to visit them. I'm fine with sending them money. Even though they have money. Fine. But I'm not in any way, shape or form down with this.

I know that getting all worked up about something that's not even happening yet isn't helpful either. I just had to vent though to get it out of my system. And now that I feel a bit better, I will be praying that this idiotic idea of my husband's never ever comes into fruition.


  1. OMG, good luck :D
    In Germany it is impossible for my in-laws to migrate. The laws are just so strict here that their only option would be to come illegaly !!

    1. Hmmm...maybe we should move to Germany then. Haha!

  2. He's probably just feeling guilty about leaving. Next time he brings it up, you could him they're too old to adapt life in a completely new environment. By the time it happened everyone would be in work/school all day. What would they do? They wouldn't have any friends or other relatives. None of their familiar parks and shops. I think old people are actually more isolated here in the U.S. It's one thing China gets right. It's not like they're going to learn to drive at their age. You know how many neighborhoods in the US aren't walkable and public transit is sparse...they'd be marooned. Basically, put it in terms of why they're better off in China.

    1. I tell you what they'd do...they'd ruin my kitchen and my house. That's what they'd do! I hope by the time this idea could actually be on the table, that my husband realizes just how stupid it is. Maybe someone can talk some sense into them. Or hopefully they won't want to come. I can't see them getting everything done through Guangzhou. I mentioned to him some of these points and I really hope he sees that they will be much happier here in China than to uproot themselves and come to a new place. They never try anything new so unless we lived near a Chinese market or restaurant, they'd starve. At least the laws bide me some time on this. Just pray that they don't come over! Gah!

  3. I hope getting here doesn't prevent you from living in your place. Does immigration do that ? I hope things will work out for you all. You can always get a good job in AtlantA. Call when you get in. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️