tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2287572224300306186.post981769016300778342..comments2023-10-10T02:26:04.141-07:00Comments on A Broad Abroad (a blog a blog): Losing My MarblesJQhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17398355557660230873noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2287572224300306186.post-68478826206742162392014-10-30T04:14:07.851-07:002014-10-30T04:14:07.851-07:00Thanks you guys, but WHEN did this start happening...Thanks you guys, but WHEN did this start happening with parents everywhere? That's what I want to know. My brother and I were not raised this way, to think everyone was to give us everything and to whine if we didn't win or get our way. We grew up in a well-to-do family and we had lots of things but our parents taught us to be appreciative and grateful. My mom used to volunteer for Kids in Distress and when I was little, I remember when I'd outgrow my clothes or toys, I'd help Mom bag them up and we'd go over there to donate them. I'd play with those kids, who were all really nice, and realize how lucky I was to have all the things I had, plus a good family life. I'm so happy she taught me that lesson in life. Even after my mom passed away, my father made sure that I understood this lesson in life. He'd buy me many things, but I had to keep my grades up in school or I'd lose out on things, or lose privileges. When I was 16, I earned my car by getting an A in math, my worst subject by far. My dad bought me a new car that he let me pick. I remember him telling me I could have anything I wanted, within reason. Airbags were new and he wanted my car to have them. But no BMW or Mercedes or anything like that. I picked a Saturn. Those were new then too. And then Hurricane Andrew happened in Florida and leveled Homestead. My father is a doctor and was active in the National Guard so he went down there every day to help. He kept apologizing every single day because he was supposed to buy my car before the hurricane hit. Now I was stuck waiting, but I wasn't a jerk about it. Sure, I was disappointed - who wouldn't be? But so many people lost their homes, cars and everything in them. I considered us lucky for only losing power for just 3 days. That's because I learned this lesson and I fear for kids today - their parents are just not teaching them this. We're going to have a bunch of whiny grown-ups very soon. You watch.JQhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17398355557660230873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2287572224300306186.post-10569044828445323892014-10-29T13:30:49.052-07:002014-10-29T13:30:49.052-07:00There are always such parents. I remember them and...There are always such parents. I remember them and their so called wonder children from my own childhood and guess what most of these wonder children/ super talents even finished high school in the end...<br />Anyways, after reading the name Roy I just have to think of a chinese family I know in finland. Their eldest son 's name is Roy and of course he looks these days like a giant Michelin man! ( really giant, he is 14 or so and already nearly as tall as I am 6'1' just well, more Mechelin man style :))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2287572224300306186.post-65931415964547024512014-10-29T11:36:03.756-07:002014-10-29T11:36:03.756-07:00Unfortunately it's not just Asian parents. My ...Unfortunately it's not just Asian parents. My sons do sports, and I see a lot of this mentality. Some parents want their kids to be on "elite" teams, so they can have bragging rights. They put a lot of pressure on the coaches to make the teams win. Ok, fine. But when their own kids are having an off day and the coach makes the decision to have them sit out? Oh no! Suddenly the same parents want everyone to be able to always play and "win" and receive praise no matter what their current ability or effort. Yet again, if it were someone else's kid who were having the off day, they would be the first ones to demand the coach take the other kid out of the game, because he was dragging down the team. You can't have it both ways, but they don't see this. They completely miss the opportunity to teach their child a valuable life lesson, because Heaven forbid didums should experience even one moment of dissapointment.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09211691412408934332noreply@blogger.com